I’m Not Gaslighting You, You’re Just Wrong And Bad


By guest blogger Derek Remus

Okay, I hear what you’re saying. You are claiming that I’m gaslighting you because you told me I hurt your feelings and I told you that when you are confrontational it hurts my feelings more. And that actually I never said that you look like a hacky-sack in that dress. I never said that! You claim I did but yet I don’t remember it, so then I didn’t. Also you do look like a hacky-sack, but you didn’t hear that from me. You’re the one who said it, so it sounds like you’re projecting that feeling onto me. I agree with it, of course, but I am not taking responsibility for it.

Here’s the thing: I’m not gaslighting you. I’m really not. You’re wrong and not telling the truth. I never said that–but even if I did say that one thing, I didn’t say it the way you said I did. Now who’s gaslighting who? Seems to me like you are just being a bad girlfriend because you couldn’t take a joke–a joke I didn’t actually but maybe did make who cares anyway–and now you’re coming at me with all this aggression? Aggression is not attractive, babe.

Again, this is not gaslighting. This is yet another example of you being wrong and bad. It feels like you should actually apologize to me. Not only have you misquoted me and taken me out of context and tried to make me look like the bad guy–when I’m not because, remember, you are–but you also had the gall to tell me that your feelings are hurt. Why? Because you want me to feel bad? Well, guess what? It did make me feel bad and I don’t like that. You should apologize to me.

How many times do I have to say this? I’m not gaslighting you. You’re just a shitty, lying, piece of shit whom I hope to mold into my perfect submissive girlfriend because I’ve berated and belittled you so much that you no longer have a sense of self. How is this so hard to understand?

Derek Remus isn’t a bad guy, he’s just been in some bad situations. 

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